As you get older, your priorities begin to change: you start your career, build a family, and develop into the individual you are meant to be. During transitional periods of life, you begin to notice who your true friends are. I’ve learned that people come into our lives when we need them the most. Whether they stay or go, they teach you a lesson, and assist in your self-growth. There are people that talk to you in their free time and those that will free their time to talk to you.
You’ll begin to notice your circle getting smaller, yet at the same time becoming stronger. Those who remain close are real and reciprocal- they criticize with your best interest at heart and are willing to go out of their way to help you become the best version of yourself. It’s important to recognize whether people’s actions and words are supporting and building you or bringing you down. There are times when you mistake people for having your back rather than holding you back. These people may act as if they care about your well-being but instead tear you apart.
Before you can begin to identify the difference between the two, you must look at yourself and ask, are you real and reciprocal as well? Relationships go both ways and communication is key. “If someone stays by your side through your worst times, they’re the ones who deserve to be with you through your best times,” (unknown), and visa versa.
I ask you to take a step back and analyze your circle, and recognize who those that truly have your best interest at heart.